“Breaking up is hard to do.” If you’ve ever gone through a breakup — regardless of who does the dumping — you know that more often than not, it sucks. The nature and dynamic of your life changes in the blink of an eye, and all of the sudden, someone who was a huge part of your life vanishes into thin air.
We’re often left wondering what we did wrong, or how it all came crashing down so quickly. But, we also need to move on with our lives. So, here are 7 tricks to help you get over a breakup.
1. Embrace The Suck
It sucks. It’s ok to admit it. Realize that the next while isn’t going to be a ton of fun. It takes some time for them to get out of your mind. Own the fact that it happened, and it’s something you’re just going to need to deal with.
2. Seek Quality Time With Your Friends
Remember all those friends you didn’t see when you were in a relationship? Yeah. Go see those friends. Friends pull us through the hard times in life. You may find the majority of your friends are pumped that relationship ended — which likely means it’s for the best. If your friends don’t like your significant other, that’s a red flag more often than not.
Use your newfound free time to better yourself. Get in shape. Read more. Level-up your career. Start that side-hustle. This is an opportunity to fill your time with things that will make you better.
4. Embrace Singleness (It’s Not All Bad)
Being single gives us more free time. We only have one calendar to manage — you get to spend your time how you want it. It’s not all bad! There is considerable freedom to take advantage of. Now, I’m not saying to start aggressively clubbing or hook up with anything that moves. But, try to enjoy the newfound freedom you have in your schedule.
5. Seek Wise Counsel From Wise People
If you’re ready, ask people you look up to for their thoughts on the breakup. They may help offer perspective, plus some things you could have done differently. Everything is a learning opportunity, and they may be able to speak truth into your situation — and do so in love. So, put your adult pants on, and seek wise counsel. Use this as an opportunity to learn and grow!
6. Think Big Picture
Odds are, you’ll live between 80-100 years (modern medicine is great, ain’t it?). So, that 2, 3, even 5 years you were dating are hardly a major percentage of your life. You have years ahead of you. Remember you’re not early or late — you’re on your own timeline. Seeing the big picture offers perspective.
7. Let Go
Don’t hold onto the “what ifs” and the “maybes”. I’m a believer that if it ended, it ended for a reason. So many people prolong their misery by holding onto something that’s bound to end (or already ended). Be willing to let go. Accept the breakup, learn from it, and move on. There are plenty of people who are waiting to meet you.